Plank Pullin – When the Honeymoon is over.


Its Plank Pullin time!  The one day a week that we strongly resolve to ignore the multitude of specks and sawdust around us and pull one bona fide plank from our own eye. Matthew 7:3-5, style.


First of all, to catch everyone up who may not be in the loop, that sexy Husband of mine recently went on a trip to India, a trip that resulted in him losing his job, and which he thankfully returned from Saturday.


So things should be peaches and cream around here, right?  That guy that I’m in love with is back, and I even get to spend my days with my best friend because of the whole no job thing.  Yay  (…ish).




Any military wife will tell you that adjusting to those husbands of ours coming back is in some ways harder than adjusting to them being gone.  We get quite used to being the boss of everything.  We get used to planning our days around ourselves, sitting when and where we want to sit, disciplining our children as we see fit, and not having to share any of our grown up possessions and responsibilities.


I think the honeymoon lasted exactly 24 hours after the valiant return of my knight in urdu-speaking armor this time.  Then he started sitting in my chair, and using my laptop, and dealing with the kids in ways differently than I would.


And the annoyance was great.


It’s funny how easily we can be perturbed when our routines get messed with.


But I always sit down to check emails at this time of the day!  How dare you play angry birds when I have such important, scheduled work to do!


So…yeah… I’ve had to adjust my selfish nature.  And take deep breaths.  And remember all the things I am super in love with about this man, and how ecstatic I am that he’s in the same country, and house, and bed as me again.


Plank Pulled.


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  1. Ever since I read that post on how absence doesn’t really make the heart grow fonder, I have noticed how true it is. One of these days, I will have to sit down and type out the realizations that Chad and I came to, when considering that phrase.

  2. Thanks for this, it’s probably what I needed. My husband will be home in less than a week and I’m worried about the adjustment. He’s not, he says he’ll try not to mess with my routine too much. lol But I don’t want him to feel like he has to walk on eggshells.

    • Yay, I’m so excited for you! :)

      But yeah, it is super hard to adjust to them coming home. Hope you guys adjust well. :)

  3. I find that happening even though my husband isn’t leaving the country. He works and is also a full time student so even when he is home he’s usually doing homework… subsequently we don’t see him a whole lot. When he’s off school for a week or more the first day or so is all “Oh yay! Time together!” and before long I’m like “I HAVE A SYSTEM AND YOU WILL RESPECT IT NOW STOP RUINING MY DAY BY DOING SUCH INFURIATING THINGS AS NEEDING TO EAT FOOD OR TRYING TO HELP ME PARENT YOU’RE DRIVING ME NUTS!”

  4. I feel like I’m trying to adjust to my man coming home weekly… because he works for one week and then is off for one week. It makes me nuts. I’ll just be used to him being home when he’s working again. So difficult to adjust to it.

  5. When my husband was laid off he was home. Every. Day. Boy, was that an adjustment. But…looking back on it, we really grew as a couple and were able to do lots of things together that we normally wouldn’t. Now that he is back to work, we are certainly grateful, but I DO miss being together as much as we were…sometimes. ;)

    • Jessica says:

      There are pros and cons to both. I loving having him home, but get more annoyed. I love having some separation, but I miss him!

  6. LOL that’s funny. You miss him so much and when he’s home he is peeing all over the place to mark his territory (not real pee mind you).

    Plank pulling? Let’s do this. I was away on vacation and didn’t write for 12 days. On the airport back with 2 kids, 3 luggage bags, a bookbag (and why is the luggage heavier than when we went on vacation?) I was in a real bad mood. I was cranky with kids, wife, TSA agent and I may have gave the flight attendant a real bad look. Yeah, I was that guy. I was cranky all of the 3 hrs while we were on the air.

  7. Kinda like a “can’t live with him, can’t live without him.” I haven’t experienced it but I can see how you’d feel like this. I love the idea of plank pulling.


  9. My husband has never gone on a long extended trip away, which I think would be difficult, but I definitely understand what you’re saying. When he’s gone for the night, for instance tonight he’s at a baseball game, I really don’t mind it. I feel like I’m able to do my own thing. Truth be told my things are usually unproductive such as commenting on blogs ;b But if he was here, I would feel like I look like I’m a slacker. Guess that’s part of the reason why he feels he’s so lucky to have a wife who doesn’t complain about his bi-weekly poker nights ;)

    • It’s nice to have those nights of no-spouse pressure occasionally for blog commenting and poker. :)