It’s Plank Pullin’ time! The one day a week that we strongly resolve to ignore the multitude of specks and sawdust around us and pull one bona fide plank from our own eye. Matthew 7:3-5 style.
First off, can I just say that I love this series? It has for real affected my life for the less planky and I love the accountability it brings. It’s slightly to very uncomfortable and it involves taking a long hard look in the dirty mirror. And I realize that’s probably why it will never be a viral hit in the blogging world. Plank Pullin is probably the hardest meme out there that I know of right now. It takes a lot of humility and bravery and I’d just like to say you guys who do participate are awesome. So there.
Well, as usual, my plank this week is about me tripping over my own foot and/or tongue. Blast that tongue!
I found myself in the position of giving advice to a couple of friends who were having trouble in the last week or so. And I found myself repeatedly telling them that the best thing they could do was to be quiet. Stop talking about how upset or hurt they were by the other person. Stop responding every time the other person said something. “I don’t care what they say”, I said. “Even if they say something irrational, or unfair, or flat out wrong, just don’t reply. The only power you have is to be quiet.” “Jesus didn’t retaliate”, said Jessica-the-wise. “Build a good reputation so that when people slander you they look foolish” I said.
Well, you know how you can’t learn a new language without using it? Yeah, I think God made a point with me this week that the same goes for the language of love. So in danced a situation that gave me the opportunity to walk my talk.
Needless to say, I pretty much failed. In my defense (because we all like to defend ourselves, don’t we?) I didn’t yell, or curse, or name-call or anything crazy. But I should’ve been quiet. I should’ve recognized that there’s a time and place for everything and that wasn’t the time or place for that particular conversation. And I definitely should’ve remembered the semi-golden rule : “When people are upset, they can’t hear you. So shut up.” Re-explaining yourself, no matter how rationally, doesn’t work if the other person is agitated. And I know this. But sometimes it’s just. so. hard to stop talking. Am I right?
Sigh. Consider this plank pulled.
And grab the honorary plank pullin button if you’re brave enough to participate. ;)