My husband is awesome. Really. There are a sexy bucketful of reasons that make me lucky to have him.
But (you saw the but coming, right?) generally I don’t pay attention to them. Nope. My tendency is to focus on the things I don’t like about him. Because of how I’m human and stuff. It’s so easy to focus on the negative in life. Someone can be perfectly cordial to you 50 times and then be a crap-head once and then we’re forever like, “Oh that guy? He’s a crap-head”.
Well my guy? He’s not a crap-head. I mean, he has crappy moments. Because of how he’s human, too. But life gets crappy when you focus on the crappy and then, ya know – it stinks. So, like I mentioned in my recent newsletter (wait, you don’t get the new Bohemian Bowman newsletter? Do it!) – in an effort to make life less stinky, I hereby declare today MY HUSBAND IS AWESOME day. Not “my husband is perfect day”, mind you. Just awesome. Because we all have crappy in us, but we’re also brimming with awesome. And which would you rather your glass be half full of?
So, without further talk of feces, I give you:
Ways My Husband Is Awesome
1. He Provides
Simple, but true. We’ve been married for more than 12 years and he’s never had an easy job, never earned money in a way that gave him any sort of personal fulfillment. Oh, and he’s been to war a couple of times. And yet we’ve always been taken care of. That’s a big deal. If the roles were reversed I’d probably be – um, grumpy? Bitter? Perhaps I should be more empathetic when I perceive him to be being crappy for “no apparent reason”. There are always reasons. Somewhere there’s a root to every problem. Reacting to the symptoms isn’t a cure.
2. He’s a Good Father
Sometimes I flat out disagree with my husband’s parenting decisions and, you guessed it, sometimes I focus on those negatives too much. I mean, heck – sometimes I disagree with my own parenting decisions. But that doesn’t make me a bad mother – just imperfect. And I’d be devastated to think that he was judging me only on my bad moments.
My husband has a relationship with our 11 year old daughter that allows for very open dialogue. I love that. I would never have talked to my dad (or mom) about the stuff that she feels free to say. That’s pretty special.
He also does chronological bible storying with The Wild Things every. single. night before bed. Literally. They start at the beginning and he uses his big theologian brain to put it on their level. They ask questions, they discuss – they learn so much. It’s one of the few constants, the few traditions that this unconventional, nomadic family has. How awesome is that?
3. He Cleans Up Toys
At the end of every day, he walks through the house and cleans up toys. Depending on where we’re living it might be the kids’ room or it might be a play room, but he rarely fails in this. It’s not something that I’ve ever asked him to do, he does it mostly for his own peace of mind, I think. It’s a nice yin to my yang because y’all – I don’t pick up toys. It might be wrong, but I draw the line at toys. I clean the dishes, the laundry, and the floor so there’s just something stubborn in me that says “I didn’t make this mess and I’m not going to clean it!”
Once again, I tend to forget that he does this. It’s been happening for so long that I think I attribute the phenomenon to toy cleaning gnomes or something. And, you guessed it, I tend to focus on what he doesn’t help with (you know, those dishes and floors and such). But take that man out of town for a few days and I’m all “Where the crap did all these toys come from and why are they all over my floor?!”
There you have it, three things that are awesome about my husband. Now it’s your turn. Grab the image from the top of this post, write your own post about your awesome (but imperfect) husband, and come link up. Come on, give him an “atta husband”. It can’t hurt.